The following is based on personal experience and personal observation of trends. While some of notes at times will be supported by data or some research, it is personal and will not apply to all. Cultural factors and beliefs my make this experience irrelevant or odd. If you are reading keep that in mind.
Social Media Fast – How It Started
I started this blog 2011 and it has been dead before it was even alive. The reason for that is because I started sensing other motives to the blog other than just spreading the word. While this sense was way less than my original reason for it, I became very aware of it and that helped me through all that you will be reading over the next period reading the notes about this fast.
This is not going to be a “ 5 Steps Towards Healthy Social Media Life”, “10 Things to Do Have Social Media Balance”, or “How to Unplug” type of articles or reads. If you continue and follow reading these notes you will notice that I find these reads are part of the problem we face. Instant fixes do NOT work. We got so used to instant gratification that we now expect the knowledge for growth to be summed up in ten bullet items. Making it the expectation for anyone that want to contribute with information, this results in everyone thinking that he/she is an expert on the topic because those 5 or 10 steps that can be followed. This instills the urge the follow all these trends on social media because one will feel that he/she is an expert in many topics just by reading those posts/articles. I don’t want to go on tangents because I will touch on each of my observations in details when time comes. I don’t have a particular plan on how I will lay out my notes. So bear with me and be part of this process as it shapes as you might be a part of shaping it ISA.
Here we go! First:
Let me start by this. You do NOT need social media to survive as a social species. You do NOT need over 300 personal connections to be connected to the world. While as a human being your neurological advances allows you to do so, you do not need these connections all at once everyday to survive or add value to your life.
I have discovered that the first step to understanding people is to understand self. To be completely in-tune with self is to be able to identify flaws so well to a point when you know exactly the purpose of your actions and what it serves. Sounds easy right! No, most people will be in denial and will find a 100 reasons for actions that serves nothing of true value (when it comes to ideal standards) and those same actions will contribute to the growth of same flaw. One will be in denial, even with self, and will try to find those beautiful excuses with righteous intentions. They will sound great to self and others. One will walk out of a situation thinking he/she is a saint after making the case, especially to self.
Well, this is not the case if you want to truly discover the reason to your additive pattern to social media. Let’s get real please.
What I did! Two full weeks of just observing people post on social media:
That was about 6 years ago (one may need more than that to discover and make conclusions) Never posted back. Did not reply to anything. Just forced myself to be silent and sometimes literally held my fist really tight not to comment. Notice that you need to watch to notice your active patterns that you can’t act upon in this period.
You may notice this:
- I have the tendency to post anything and everything I come across.
- I have the tendency to post anything that looks controversial.
- I have the tendency to post things based on the title without reading the whole piece.
- I have the tendency to post what seems like breaking news (notice your source).
- I have the tendency to post articles from a particular discipline.
- I have the tendency to post what is trendy.
- I have the tendency to like or comment more than post or vise versa.
For two weeks, or more, continue being active, not interactive. Notice the pattern of what you would’ve done if you were interactive. Even if you are one that puts thoughts on your post or repost prior to the action, notice your thought patterns. What are the questions that I usually think of before your cautions actions to be interactive? How are your questions or actions related to other people’s thought of you? Keep track of it. Keep notice if you need to.
I will post my notes and my conclusions next ISA.